34 year old man dating 18 year old

Added: Jesus Mauk - Date: 06.10.2021 19:12 - Views: 39895 - Clicks: 3299

A couple of weeks ago I matched with an awesome girl on Bumble and we've been on two great dates. She is witty and mature and sexy, but she's only 18 my ex was my age and has a kid from a relationship. Petra, I know this is legal, but is it OK? My friends — especially my female friends — definitely haven't been that impressed when I told them. It depends what you mean by "OK". She's a 34 year old man dating 18 year old adult, you're a consenting adult, and what goes on between two consenting adults is generally none of anyone else's business.

No matter how mature she is or seems, there is a big gap between 18 and 36 in terms of lifestyle, finances, mindset, and, well, pretty much everything actually. Think about the difference between a party full of year-olds and a party full of year-olds. The former is a Bacchanalian swirl of vomit, cheap cider, unprotected sex, the unchecked arrogance of youth, and a distinct lack of toilet paper. The latter features artisan crackers, homemade hummus and wine for most, There's La Croix for the sober drivers and the preggos, and conversation centred around podcasts, the property market, and probiotics.

Daniel, what's your end game here? Are you looking for a long-term relationship or just a fling?

34 year old man dating 18 year old

If you want a fling, by all means proceed, so long as she is aware you're not looking for a relationship and is fine with that. But if you're seriously considering a full-on relationship with this girl, be mindful that you only recently got out of a serious relationship, and that relationship may have more to do with this one than you think. Your ex is a mum in her 30s. You're now keen on someone 18 years her junior who presumably is yet to procreate. Is it possible that your new love interest seems so appealing because she represents everything your ex didn't, ie the breezy simplicity of youth?

Unfortunately, Daniel, what seems like breezy simplicity now won't continue if you carry on seeing this girl. You're now in your late 30s, presumably with a settled career and a solid sense of self.

34 year old man dating 18 year old

It's not possible to have those things at 18, and nor should it be. Your 20s are when you work out who you really are, and often that process is pretty turbulent. Think about how different your year-old self was to your current one.

34 year old man dating 18 year old

You say she's mature, and maybe she is, but even the most mature year-old's brain still isn't fully developed in fact, the brain doesn't finish developing until about Her identity is going to radically change throughout her 20s, and that process of self discovery doesn't lend itself to being in a relationship with a much older man. It's not fair on her and it's not fair on you. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but the likelihood of a long-term relationship working out between the two of you is slim.

If that's the kind of relationship you want I suggest you end things with this girl and your search, narrowing your stipulated age range on Bumble.

34 year old man dating 18 year old

Petra Quinn is a year-old professional living and working in Auckland, New Zealand. She uses a pseudonym for this column to protect her personal and career opportunities. To send Petra a question, her with "Dear Petra" in the subject line. I'm 36, she's Is our age gap too great? Petra QuinnJun 21 Sometimes, the age gap means it's just not going to work. File photo. It's possible your new love interest's appeal is because she's everything your ex isn't, says Petra.

34 year old man dating 18 year old 34 year old man dating 18 year old

email: [email protected] - phone:(707) 681-8548 x 7960

I'm 36, she's Is our age gap too great?