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Return to Book. Preview — The Conversation by Hill Harper. In Black man want some good lovn book, Hill Harper examines the roots of breakdown in black families, considering the importance of current sexual stereotypes in black American culture. Get A Copy. Hardcovers. More Details Original Title. Other Editions Friend Reviews.
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Sort order. Sep 12, Amy Binkerd rated it it was amazing. I was perusing the "bargain books" today and had two classics in my hand. When I came across this one, I read the back cover and quickly put the other 2 back as I am 1:cheap and 2:coming to the end of my weekly spend money.
Dang budget rules! Now as you can see by my profile pic, I am as pasty white as they come so why pick up a book about Black relationships? I'll tell you! So obviously, there is a barrier there where I will never understand some things and vice versa. I picked this book up to help it make sense to me, and Black man want some good lovn got so much more out of this book.
This book helped me understand the stereo-types that plague the men in my class. I love the men in my class. We have some raw conversations, and of course disagreements, but what I love is at the end of class they can still shake my hand and say "thank you for coming Miss Amy. This book helped give me the "inside scoop" if you will, into grasping how different yet truly alike we really are. It helped me to see how I have been wrong as well. This book made me look at myself and see how what I thought was a "cop-out", was more of an ingrained mindset.
I'll be honest, there were a few parts that kind of hurt my feelings as a white woman, when the women being interviewed shared how they viewed "us". I was raised to love everyone regardless of color, status in society, etc. I have never been able to grasp why skin color has ever been an issue. But the reality is, as I have begun to find out through pointed conversations, that my mindset is somewhat rare. This is the longest review I have ever given! LOL but this book meant so much to me because it helps me understand the men I am helping to lead.
I can't wait to look through different eyes next Tuesday when I sit in my classroom and interact with "my boys". Thank you Hill Harper for taking the time to ask the tough questions of your race, and begin to help them rise above what the world has told them they can be. To help them become who God created them to be. Men of character who lead their families with love and conviction I'll shut up now! Thanks again! View all 10 comments. Oct 30, Kya Publishing Toronto rated it really liked it. Hill Harper's new book "The Conversation" should be the last Black man want some good lovn written about black relationships.
It covers Black man want some good lovn of the topics, the discussions, and the tools needed for readers to move forward in this area, no longer held back by historical, social, and cultural restrictions, perceived or actual. Released in September ofHarper's third book focuses on "How Black Men and Women can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships" and has the potential to be the definitive word on black love.
Using pers Hill Harper's new book "The Conversation" should be the last book written about black relationships. Using personal experiences, candid interviews and discussions with his friends and associates, and modern references like the Obamas, the dangers of 'technological' communication, and even Steve Harvey's recent relationship book, Harper presents a relevant and timely discussion on "the breakdown of African-American relationships.
Right Please Stand Up? Love - "Some women think men should read their minds and decipher what they really mean. Alternatively, they give the answer society or their mother told them was the proper answer, though it may not be their truth at all For women, the issue of finding a healthy balance between all that is expected of her can be a tiring lifelong quest While there are universal truths that can be applied to relationships of any race, the historical and specific references to African-American issues is encouraging.
Harper understands the issues, and is able to address them directly. As his friend Brad states in the book: "I think the Black family has been shredded for a couple reasons.
The last forty years have been filled with fatherless households and women struggling to take care of their children. As a young girl, if your mother who probably resents your father for not being there continuously tells you, "You don't need a man for anything. Provide for yourself! Take care of yourself. Look at me I'm doing it, and we are fine," at some point, that girl will begin to believe this. Then, that same young girl probably will not have the luxury of seeing her mom have a healthy relationship with a man. So, how is she supposed to know how to interact with men?
On the flip side, in these same households, most young Black boys don't have male figures to teach them how to be men or how to treat women. What happens when this young girl and Black man want some good lovn young boy meet up when they are grown? Exactly what is going on now His strengths as an actor are numerous, but his academic background and achievements in writing foreshadow the contributions we can expect to see Harper make in popular culture, academia, and maybe even politcs one day.
The son of a psychiatrist father and anesthesiologist motherHarper has a B. View 1 comment. May 05, Nakia rated it liked it Shelves: book-club-national. I have to give Hill Harper props for at least attempting to tackle this subject.
Black female and male relationships will have you writing volumes that could make Encyclopedia Brittanica jealous. He gets an A for effort, but I really didnt learn anything groundbreaking from "The Conversation". Yes, marriage is hard, Black man want some good lovn rewarding work. Yes, women and men communicate differently, which can cause alot of problems. Yes, some Black women need to lighten up, smile, and laugh, which will produce a par I have to give Hill Harper props for at least attempting to tackle this subject. Yes, some Black women need to lighten up, smile, and laugh, which will produce a particular type of energy that will attract the opposite sex.
Yes, some Black men need to be more responsible and able and need to be checked about their mistakes. Yadda, yadda, blah blah blah I was surprised, however, to read of Black women who say they either exclusively date outside of the race, or they have never felt more beautiful or comfortable in their skin, than when they were involved with men who were not Black. Now that was eye opening. Also, Hill's own supposed relationship caused my eyebrow to raise a time or two. Am I the only one who thought Nichole was a figment of his imagination, or possibly a composite of a few of his past female partners?
Something just didnt add up about her to me. And leaving her out of the thank you's in the back of the book, led to me questioning this relationship even more. I took away from the book that friendship, communication, and determination are the key to long lasting relationships. Even though I already knew that, Harper still created a dialogue that my bookclub was able to follow for our own discussion of relationships, and I thank him for that. View 2 comments. Nov 08, Ebony rated it it was ok Shelves: relationships. I am exhaling. The only conversation that happens between men and women occurs near the end of the book and left me wondering, who are these people?
It was refreshing to read. I also am thrilled that there are no hints of patriarchal control or sexism in the book. He even calls out black men for not holding each other able. I was surprised to hear of how many black women Black man want some good lovn all black men and how many black men hate all black women. Neither my male nor female friends stereotype the race in that way which makes me wonder if those stereotypes are class issues?
The one aspect of the book that made me uncomfortable were the implicit class arguments. Harper throws the lavish parties and eats all this great food and tells black people to be financially responsible. I kept thinking, it must be nice to live like that, to have friends like that, to travel like that, to spend money like that. My arguments will be in print soon, but I believe economics are the single most affective factor in black relationships.
Black people in different class brackets are forced to make different decisions about relationships because of how much money they make. How many women force themselves to fall in love with a man who can afford her? How many women stay in abusive situations for economic reasons? It not just about how you spend money but how you deal with not having money.
The economic crisis is about to have a ificant effect on relationships. Because black people have always had tenuous issues with money we used to be bred to make white people moneyrecessions effect us not only in new ways but worse ones. Some people like to read about how the other half live. Honestly, I was resentful. I wanted to know why it was so important to Harper to let us know that he can hire a chef and buy the best wines for his friends. His life, including his relationship read like a fairy tale. View all 3 comments.Black man want some good lovn
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