Added: Shaana Weatherly - Date: 09.12.2021 05:07 - Views: 38099 - Clicks: 9598
I went on my first date when I was almost 14 with a boy named Richie.
It was awesome. For two straight weeks, Richie and I held hands under the lunch table at school and made out behind the gym until the bell rang. We sighed longingly into the phone receiver for hours each night. I wanted it to go on forever, but Richie soon broke up with me for Theresa. The teenage heart is often at the mercy of the teenage libido.
Mine was excited but cautious. Clearly, we were not meant to be. My oldest daughter is now 14 and on the brink of her own dating life.
Compared to mine, her dating landscape seems so much more intense. Phone calls and in-person conversation have been replaced with texts, sexts, Instagram tagging, and Snapchat streaks flying at all hours. Teens rarely seem to go out to the movies or for an ice cream, but might go out in a group.
Add to that the tremendous physical expectations for girls, both in looks and acts, and teen dating can be downright stressful. Social and cultural pressures plus the layer of explicitness, speed, and secretiveness that technology adds makes the idea of healthy teen relationships seem impossible. Love is the most amazing high in the world and also the greatest heartbreak.
Learning how to handle both the highs and lows is part of growing up. Stay in touch with how you feel, both emotionally and physically. It may seem awkward at first, but not being honest becomes even more awkward and potentially dangerous later on.
Forget about waiting around for your love object to ask you to hang out. If you like someone, go ahead and let them know. Same goes for any physical interaction. Your desires are important too. Remember, you always have a choice. Besides, hook-ups and sexting, while thrilling, have the potential to be anywhere from demeaning to abusive.
Wanting an emotional connection that includes kindness, love, respect, reciprocity and friendship is totally valid. The idea is to enjoy each other. You have your whole life to get tangled up in complicated relationships. For now, try to keep it simple. Everyone has feelings. The kindest thing is to be honest as soon as possible. How you feel, what you think, and what you want matters. Crushes come and go, but you will always have you, so take care of yourself inside and out.
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