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Posted January 31, Reviewed by Ekua Hagan. Some years ago, when I was single, Eva G. She was unhappy because she was repeatedly involved in ungratifying relationships with men who were at least 20 years her senior.
She was quite attractive, bright, articulate, and wanted to understand her need to date older men. The psychotherapy continued once-weekly for about seven months. She quickly developed insight into the dynamics of her choices in men and began making better decisions in her dating life.
When we parted company, she knew the door to my office was open should she want to look deeper into her conflicts. I was surprised, but not stunned. Some say the interval should be two years; others Dating your ex therapist it could be as long as five. It can be tempting to engage in a relationship with a former patient or client. Any therapist who denies having ever been tempted is either lying or is simply deluded. That Eva wanted to see me socially was, by itself, evidence she still had unresolved problems.
I was more than 15 years her senior. But there was something else, something equally important: Transference had developed while she was in treatment. It always remains, never disappears. By its very nature, transference guarantees a power disparity in any relationship—even if therapy ended long ago. Despite the passage of time, the therapist is not perceived realistically by the former Dating your ex therapist. That alone defines any proposed relationship as a parent-child interaction. Or a teacher-student interface. Any possible relationship—six months or six years after therapy is over—is tainted by residual transference.
Even though years have passed, any extra-therapeutic relationship—no matter how tempting—is taboo. Mark Rubinstein, M. His most recent book is the novel Mad Dog House. Mark Rubinstein M. Tales from the Couch. Sex With a Former Patient The temptations of the profession. About the Author. Online: My websiteFacebookLinkedIn. Read Next. Back Psychology Today. Back Find a Therapist. Back Get Help.
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