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This time around, you are carrying MS as extra baggage. Who will want to take that on? When do you mention the MS? Do you even mention it at all? And if yes, when? And how do you find the right person? The dating world has gone digital since then.
There were so many unknowns for me and I was putting a lot on the line. I approached this venture with trepidation, but it was time…so I took the plunge.
I started by giving myself some parameters. I decided anyone near or in my social and professional circles were off limits. These people are integral parts of my support network. Bars, clubs, etc? Try being the only sober one in the room. Social events? I tried a bit of that but found it was mostly the same people over and over again. Online dating…I dunno? Am I really going to meet someone over the internet?
After having people reassure me that online dating is quite common these days, I decided to be brave and try the online option. For someone with fatigue, online dating ended up being the most appealing option. I can get through the preliminary introductions with limited exertion. The most valuable lesson my MS nurse taught me was to budget my energy like I would with money. Through online dating, I was able to allocate my energy for Multiple sclerosis online dating people I already felt a connection with.
I had a preliminary look at free online dating sites and apps. I almost went running for the hills and abandoned the endeavor altogether. As I said, I was dealing with limited energy resources. This option was not presenting me with opportunities I wanted to spend my energy on. The quality of the person you are looking to date is crucial when you have Multiple sclerosis online dating chronic illness.
It can take a lot to love yourself at times, let alone asking someone else to love you back. You are making yourself very vulnerable after spending all your resources building yourself back up. Not again.
I may not always be able to be there when you want me to, and that hurts me as much as it does you. After giving myself a pep talk I decided to a paid dating site, and this turned out to be a really positive experience. I got to speak to people looking for the same things I was, with similar interests. All the sifting for ideal matches was done for me, and I was able to avoid the really active people as that would never have worked out.
I found that bringing up my MS ended up becoming quite an organic process. In chatting and getting to know people I found the right times and the right people to Multiple sclerosis online dating that information to.
And I only did if I felt it was relevant to the situation. In my opinion, disclosing your health status to someone you are dating should be like with an employer. And guess what else I found out? Everyone has baggage! Once I understood that I felt less stressed about bringing up that part of my life.
In the end, I did find a match, and despite my worry, the topic of my health ended up being a complete non-event; he was very understanding and supportive. Maybe I was lucky, or maybe my selection process had made this a positive experience. We are approaching one year together, and I am always amazed at how he takes my MS in his stride. He recognizes the strength it takes to achieve what I do every day. And I provide him with support through my own strengths. For me, relationships and finding love after being diagnosed with a chronic illness was more about me accepting my condition Multiple sclerosis online dating finding a partner who did.
When I was diagnosed, I would have described my life as perfect. For a long time, I would just focus on getting that life back. That was not only unhealthy for me, but it was also unrealistic. I had to reach a point of acceptance of my diagnosis and had to learn to master the ebbs and flows of my condition. Before that realization, I was emotionally unstable, which made my relationships, both romantic and amicable, Multiple sclerosis online dating rocky.
Once I learned to be strong on my own, it gave me the self-confidence to move forward in my life. My advice to anyone in a similar position as me is to work on yourself first.
Build up a strong foundation; a good relationship needs a strong base. If you have an illness like mine, you will have bad days in your future, no matter how hard you try to keep yourself in good health. Walking away is frightening when you feel that you are not worthy of being loved by another. This is why realizing my self-worth had to be the first thing to happen.
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